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Deborski I empathize with you that your heart was broken. I am really sorry that you had to go through that. But I disagree with your analogy that being gay is like a "temptation" or an "addiction" for chocolates or alcohol. People are born gay. It isn't something they can shake off. They are either gay, or they are not gay. And in my experience, forcing gay people into the closet, forcing them to lie about who they are in the first place, is what creates situations like the one you are describing! Why did this man try to pretend he was straight in the first place? If he lived in a society where he could freely be gay, he would have never dated you and he would never have broken your heart!
And I do not mean this as an attack on you, but when you say that being gay is a "vice" like addiction or a bad habit, you are judging! Personally, I do not care if people are gay or not. It makes no difference to me whatsoever. I am glad to know they are gay up front though, because then there are no guessing games and no one is lied to or hurt. To me, being gay is like being black or being white. It is what it is. A black person can't change the color of his skin, even in a society where being black means that he is discriminated against. And gay people can't change the fact that they are gay. Sure, they can be celibate, as Throbert suggested, but why should they have to? Why can't they be allowed to love and marry and enjoy all the same rights as heterosexual people have?
I do not support outlandish expressions of a pornographic nature, whether they are gay or straight. I could fully understand if Russia made laws against pornography in public, or showing pornography to kids. If the gay pride parades contained too much pornography, it would have been easy enough to just outlaw the porn. But why also outlaw rainbow flags? It makes no sense to me.
I'm not telling Russians how to run their country. I very much doubt that these laws will change. But at the same time, I am afraid - as a foreigner - to travel to Russia right now. I don't want to be accused of spreading "propaganda" if I happen to mention that my husband's uncle is gay, or if I wear rainbow earrings or something. So sure, Russia can keep its laws as is Russia's right as a sovereign country, but to expect that there will be no international reaction to that is naive.