Throbert - since you are an "ex-Catholic" - you might find this blog interesting, as well as the book which this man, Troy Fitzgerald, has published, titled "Cults and Closets."

Cults and Closets | Coming Out of Chaos

It was written by a former member of the Worldwide Church of God, the cult my uncle founded which I had the exceedingly bad luck to grow up in. He details his raw story of how he left the church and came out of the closet. I'm in the process of reading it now, and in contact with this writer daily. Powerful, gripping stuff.

Maybe I am hasty in calling it bad luck. After all, it was the WCG which sent me to Soviet Russia (and then pretty much abandoned me there), which was where I finally left the church (was disfellowshipped, actually) and began my slow deconversion journey and exodus from religious belief systems. But, I might never have been able to live in Russia if not for the cult, so in retrospect, perhaps it was a blessing in disguise.

As Sting said, "Men go crazy in congregations but they only get better one by one."