Thread: Why I love (and hate) dating Russian men (article)

Originally Posted by it-ogo

Yep, but male strong emotions are short (and dangerous in extreme) and when they passed you are again friends (if survived both) while female ones are lasting (and exhausing in extreme). We are still different, no?

Oh I can't say I agree with that generalization at all. I've encountered men who hold very, very long grudges! That anger isn't always a short burst. It can last for years and take the form of nonstop revenge. You may think you are "friends" again, but in reality he's just waiting for the next opportunity to stick in the knife. Don't tell me that's not true because I have experienced it. On the contrary, women who fight with each other will often make up, talk for hours and lick each others' wounds so to speak, and then become close friends afterwards! I am still best buddies with a girl who I got into a fight with years ago. On the other hand, I have dealt with some very hateful males in the workplace and elsewhere, who never, never let go of their anger or hurt feelings and did their best to make my life miserable for YEARS.

Originally Posted by Deborski

Oh I can't say I agree with that generalization at all.

As I said already, I admit that individual differences are bigger than gender-based ones. Still there are tendencies.

Originally Posted by it-ogo

As I said already, I admit that individual differences are bigger than gender-based ones. Still there are tendencies.

Perhaps. But if we live our lives expecting everyone to conform to our generalized notions, we end up getting surprised and/or disappointed.

Originally Posted by Deborski

Perhaps. But if we live our lives expecting everyone to conform to our generalized notions, we end up getting surprised and/or disappointed.

We can't escape generalizations. Any word in any human language is a generalization. Only animals accept the world as it is.

Originally Posted by it-ogo

We can't escape generalizations. Any word in any human language is a generalization. Only animals accept the world as it is.

To a degree, you're correct. I'm just saying, don't live life according to generalizations because there are always exceptions to every rule There. Another generalization!