Yep, but male strong emotions are short (and dangerous in extreme) and when they passed you are again friends (if survived both) while female ones are lasting (and exhausing in extreme). We are still different, no?
As for manipulations... Men often are happy to be manipulated. To some degree, in some situations. For example if he avoids to make a decision which concerns you both and avoids to discuss it, most probably it means that he will accept your decision and will be grateful to you if you make it in a form that does not hurt his ego. In the form of manipulation. And if you in your decision still account for his interests in favor of yours he may be even more grateful to you for a long term. Often men understand everything but don't want to discuss. Just like dogs.