Quote Originally Posted by jessi
Quote Originally Posted by Darobat
I believe
I want to understand you - Я тебя хочу понимать.
I want you to understand - Я хотел чтобы ты понимаешь.
I was just wondering why for the second one you are using the past for the verb 'to want'?? (Я хотел/a instead of Я хочу...)
Я хотел бы - means "I would like"
Я хочу - I want

Я хотел чтобы ты понимаешь is incorrect. "хотел" (without "бы") is just a past tense of хотеть but you need to use past in the second part of the sentence.

Я хочу, чтобы ты понял(а) / or: понимал(а).