Тоби , I agree with you.

I like the first reason.Because it includes my feelings.

I never think about second reason even.its an ugly behaviour.

the worst situation is Lack of communication!
I cant explain her nothing.Of course she couldnt too.
she doesnt know english.and I dont know russian.
Just "I love you" saying each other on the phone.
and only I call her.she never call me.sometimes mail me.
but she is very good when we talking to phone.
I cant still solve this situation

thanks for you are interested in my quesiton.