I really appreciate your candor and honesty, Hanna. I grew up in a strict, fundamentalist church where children died of things like appendicitis because it was considered a lack of faith in God to take them to a doctor. Amazingly, in this day and age, that STILL goes on! Many religions also practice "shunning" (which I read was made illegal in some Eastern European countries) - ie, the practice of disfellowshipping or excommunicating those who leave the fold. This is widely practiced by many fundamentalist sects, as well as Jehovah's Witnesses, Mormons and other "mainstream" religions. I myself was disfellowshipped when I left the church I grew up in. That amounted to losing my family and my entire social network all in one shocking blow. It is so devastating to be "shunned" that many people commit suicide. I came close to killing myself over it, too, but thankfully I held on and got to the place where I made new friends, who are closer to me than my own family was or is.
Churches have so many rules like this, that the idea of an official state religion scares the hell out of me. Once church and state are in bed together, they produce oppression, witch-hunts, and ignorance on a vast scale. We can see that clearly in many Muslim countries, where women are not allowed to drive cars or show their faces in public (among many other misogynist practices). I imagine those countries will reach enlightenment on their own and I am not in favor of invading them or trying to force them to change, since that inevitably results in an even stronger religious stance and more oppression.