During dialogue I wanted to say the following general abstract statement:

"When you don't spend much time with your wife how you cannot expect that she will not start feeling neglected".

The word "you" didn't refer to my co-speaker (my co-speaker was by the way a woman). It is just a general statement.

How it is translated in Russian?

"Kogda ty ne provodish' vremya s ..."
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"Kogda muzh ne provodit vremya ..."
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"Kogda kto-nibud' / kto-to ne provodit' vremya ..."
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"Kogda ne provodit' vremya s ..."