Yes, well we won't discuss the merits or demerits of Russian men. Or Russian women for that matter.
It is nothing specific about Russian men in particular, American men were - if anything - actually much worse, when I returned to the States. I try to take each person as they are. I long ago moved on, and I have an American husband who is very kind and gentle with me. My comment was only meant to show some empathy for your post. A part of me also dreamed of finding love in Russia, when I was young.

Also - my husband is very supportive of traveling to Russia. He wants to meet my old friends and see where I lived and worked. I think it will be exciting to see how much has changed since before...