seems like instead of autoplay=1 you need ap=1

in coffecup's code try replacing
flashvars="file=http://vid444.photobucket.com/albums/qq167/rockzmom/MasterRussian/364b632a.mp4"
with

flashvars="file=http://vid444.photobucket.com/albums/qq167/rockzmom/MasterRussian/364b632a.mp4&ap=1"