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    Formal Dinner invitation - HELP

    I am not entirely sure how to word this or really what to do. I wanted to do something different, fun and out of the norm of what we usually do.

    As a gift to my friend for his birthday, I decided to invite him to dinner. I did this verbally and while I know it is OK. I would rather make it a bit more nice or formal. SO....how would I do that?

    Like how would I word the invitation in russian?

    Here is my idea and you can tell me if it is ok.

    В честь вашего дня рождения,
    Tы сердечно приглашены на обед в
    пятницу, 27 марта 2009.
    Ресторан имеет ваш выбор.

    or

    Просит удовольствие вашей компании
    на обед в честь вашего дня
    рождения в пятницу, 27 марта 2009

    How is this?

    Also, is there any particular artwork that might be used in such an invitation?

    Lastly, as a man being invited by a woman ... what would you like or not like?

    Any and all advice much appreciated.

    Thank you!

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    Re: Formal Dinner invitation - HELP

    "Ресторан имеет ваш выбор" doesn't make sense in Russian. Did you mean that he gets to choose the restaurant? If so, you can write something like

    В честь твоего дня рожения
    я приглашаю тебя на обед
    в пятницу, 27 марта 2009.
    Ресторан - на твой выбор!

    Frankly, I would be embarassed if a lady invited me to dinner in a restaurant and offered to pay for my dinner... Especially on my birthday. But since you've already done it verbally, he probably understands your intentions, so it must be okay.

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    Re: Formal Dinner invitation - HELP

    Quote Originally Posted by translationsnmru
    "Ресторан имеет ваш выбор" doesn't make sense in Russian. Did you mean that he gets to choose the restaurant? If so, you can write something like

    В честь твоего дня рожения
    я приглашаю тебя на обед
    в пятницу, 27 марта 2009.
    Ресторан - на твой выбор!

    Frankly, I would be embarassed if a lady invited me to dinner in a restaurant and offered to pay for my dinner... Especially on my birthday. But since you've already done it verbally, he probably understands your intentions, so it must be okay.
    Yes he gets to choose the restaurant.

    Really it would be offensive for a woman to offer and pay as a gift? Hm ... I must ponder this.

    He seemed to be happy about it. But then again ...I am still getting to know him.

    рожения <--- what is this? It is not translating for me?!

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    Re: Formal Dinner invitation - HELP

    Quote Originally Posted by emeraldeyez

    Yes he gets to choose the restaurant.

    Really it would be offensive for a woman to offer and pay as a gift? Hm ... I must ponder this.
    Offensive, no. Embarrassing - for many men, yes /

    Quote Originally Posted by emeraldeyez
    He seemed to be happy about it.
    Then it must be ok!

    Quote Originally Posted by emeraldeyez
    рожения <--- what is this? It is not translating for me?!
    A typo
    It should have been "рождения"!
    Local typo gremlins are completely out of hand!

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    Re: Formal Dinner invitation - HELP

    Quote Originally Posted by emeraldeyez
    He seemed to be happy about it. But then again ...I am still getting to know him.
    I wouldn't worry if I were you. You told your friend about your plans in advance, and he was happy about it. I think he would hinted at least if he were not entirely comfortable with that idea. Probably he thinks like an American now (or tries to).

    Most Russian men would be rather uncomfortable about this situation. There's sort of a rule: "man should pay for a lady in a restaurant, or he's not a man". Even splitting the bill is not very common (bit it happens, of course). And only absolutely money-less or immoral individuals are supposed to let women pay for them.

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    Re: Formal Dinner invitation - HELP

    You know .... I think the more I get to know russian men in general the more I really want one of my own! Sigh ...........

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    Re: Formal Dinner invitation - HELP

    Quote Originally Posted by translationsnmru
    Local typo gremlins are completely out of hand!
    dang them buggers!

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    Re: Formal Dinner invitation - HELP

    Quote Originally Posted by gRomoZeka
    I wouldn't worry if I were you. You told your friend about your plans in advance, and he was happy about it. I think he would hinted at least if he were not entirely comfortable with that idea. Probably he thinks like an American now (or tries to).

    Well he has been here approximately 10 years now. So maybe he thinks a bit differently. I would not say so much though. It is something about his demeanor and his words. Hm ....???

    Quote Originally Posted by gRomoZeka
    Most Russian men would be rather uncomfortable about this situation. There's sort of a rule: "man should pay for a lady in a restaurant, or he's not a man". Even splitting the bill is not very common (bit it happens, of course). And only absolutely money-less or immoral individuals are supposed to let women pay for them.
    hahaa ....

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    Re: Formal Dinner invitation - HELP

    Quote Originally Posted by emeraldeyez
    Quote Originally Posted by gRomoZeka
    Most Russian men would be rather uncomfortable about this situation. There's sort of a rule: "man should pay for a lady in a restaurant, or he's not a man". Even splitting the bill is not very common (bit it happens, of course). And only absolutely money-less or immoral individuals are supposed to let women pay for them.
    hahaa ....
    If a woman made me such a gift and I'd accepted it, all my friends call me gigolo for sure! Sorry, emeraldeyez, I meant no offence, but it's just the way how we look at these things here, at Russia.
    Please, correct my mistakes, except for the cases I misspell something on purpose!

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    Re: Formal Dinner invitation - HELP

    Technically, the way the invitation is written doesn't necessarily imply that the inviting person is paying for both. Even though I have lived in the West almost half of my life, I would still not allow a lady to pay for me, no way. Depending on what our relationship is, I could let her pay for herself, since I've been in situations where the lady didn't feel comfortable with me paying for her either, and I wouldn't want that.

    You can however bring him a small birthday gift, it's perfectly acceptable.

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    Re: Formal Dinner invitation - HELP

    Quote Originally Posted by Basil77
    Quote Originally Posted by emeraldeyez
    Quote Originally Posted by gRomoZeka
    Most Russian men would be rather uncomfortable about this situation. There's sort of a rule: "man should pay for a lady in a restaurant, or he's not a man". Even splitting the bill is not very common (bit it happens, of course). And only absolutely money-less or immoral individuals are supposed to let women pay for them.
    hahaa ....
    If a woman made me such a gift and I'd accepted it, all my friends call me gigolo for sure! Sorry, emeraldeyez, I meant no offence, but it's just the way how we look at these things here, at Russia.

    mmmmmmm .....I understand. I find it a shame though. Because it IS a gift after all. And no offense taken. Really.

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    Re: Formal Dinner invitation - HELP

    Quote Originally Posted by Pcloadletter
    Technically, the way the invitation is written doesn't necessarily imply that the inviting person is paying for both. Even though I have lived in the West almost half of my life, I would still not allow a lady to pay for me, no way. Depending on what our relationship is, I could let her pay for herself, since I've been in situations where the lady didn't feel comfortable with me paying for her either, and I wouldn't want that.

    You can however bring him a small birthday gift, it's perfectly acceptable.

    Again I understand.

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    Re: Formal Dinner invitation - HELP

    I think it is incredible that the men would want to pay.

    I wish that here in America there was still Chivalry where women LIKED being women and men treated women like they were women. SIGH .....

    You see I am totally NOT a feminist and really miss things like .... men opening doors for women, things like that.

    So again ....I think I need to find my own russian guy to have. LOL

    ANYWAY ... I did ask my friend if he minded or felt it would be embarrassing for him to let me pay.
    He said he is fine with it. He realizes it is a gift. He said if it was any other time he would not allow it.
    PLUS ...he stated it is not like any of his friends would know ... so .....

    Off to dinner we go.

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    Re: Formal Dinner invitation - HELP

    Кстати говоря, dinner - это обед или ужин?

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    Re: Formal Dinner invitation - HELP

    Quote Originally Posted by emeraldeyez
    PLUS ...he stated it is not like any of his friends would know ... so .....
    Aw, guilty pleasures..

    Have a great time, emeraldeyez!

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    Re: Formal Dinner invitation - HELP

    Quote Originally Posted by gRomoZeka
    Quote Originally Posted by emeraldeyez
    PLUS ...he stated it is not like any of his friends would know ... so .....
    Aw, guilty pleasures..

    Have a great time, emeraldeyez!

    We went Monday night. It was a great time. Just talked and ate. No more, no less. LOL

    Thanks for the good wishes gRomoZeka

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    Re: Formal Dinner invitation - HELP

    Quote Originally Posted by Cocos
    Кстати говоря, dinner - это обед или ужин?

    Каково различие?

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    Re: Formal Dinner invitation - HELP

    If to say about Russian tradition, a host provides food and drinks, guests bring their gifts. A party can take place at home, at a restaurant or even at a picnic (why not), the sex does not matter.

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    Re: Formal Dinner invitation - HELP

    Quote Originally Posted by Cocos
    Кстати говоря, dinner - это обед или ужин?
    "dinner" is by definition the main meal of the day, so depending on social habits of a person you talk to it could be either обед or ужин. In the States it usually happens in the evening, after work, so ужин.

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    Re: Formal Dinner invitation - HELP

    Quote Originally Posted by emeraldeyez
    I think it is incredible that the men would want to pay.

    I wish that here in America there was still Chivalry where women LIKED being women and men treated women like they were women. SIGH .....
    Women did that to men. They went all the way about being 'equal'. Now they reap the fruits of it.
    Still, a man should remain a man no matter how 'equal' women think they are. )))
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