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The price is even more shocking than the title

"...We need a move-a-body friend.

A year or two ago, my good friend called, and as soon as I said, "Hello!" she said, "You're a friend who would move a body." I could tell by her voice that she was serious. I lowered my voice and whispered, "What does that mean?"
She said that one of her sister's close friends had called her sister and asked her to help her move her mom. The friend's mother, who was apparently only invited to visit once a year, struggled with alcoholism. When my friend's sister's friend came home from work, her mother was passed out drunk on the sofa. It was 3 o'clock in the afternoon, and the kids would be busting through the front door any minute. She called because she physically needed help moving her mother.
I let out a deep sigh and said, "Yes. You could definitely call me."
...

I thought about how lucky I am to have a couple of move-a-body friends in my life.
...

About a week after this call, I thought I'd pay the kindness forward, and I called my friend Dawn. As soon as she answered, I said, "You're a friend who would help me move a body." She replied, "Holy crap. Did you kill somebody?" I laughed. "No, not today." Then I told her how much she means to me and how grateful I am to find shelter in her friendship."

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Oh I never looked at this thread because I didn't understand the title. But it's really cool.

Originally Posted by Hanna

Oh I never looked at this thread because I didn't understand the title. But it's really cool.

I translated it as:

"Hodgepodge: advice, opinions, wisdom, information, useful or not"

It's just a fun melange of everything.

'Preferred' pronouns gain traction at US colleges







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OAKLAND, Calif. (AP) — The weekly meetings of Mouthing Off!, a group for students at Mills College in Oakland, Calif., who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender, always start the same way. Members take turns going around the room saying their names and the personal pronouns they want others to use when referring to them — she, he or something else.



It's an exercise that might seem superfluous given that Mills, a small and leafy liberal arts school historically referred to as the Vassar of the West, only admits women as undergraduates. Yet increasingly, the "shes" and "hers" that dominate the introductions are keeping third-person company with "they," ''ze" and other neutral alternatives meant to convey a more generous notion of gender.

"Because I go to an all-women's college, a lot of people are like, 'If you don't identify as a woman, how did you get in?'" said sophomore Skylar Crownover, 19, who is president of Mouthing Off! and prefers to be mentioned as a singular they, but also answers to he. "I just tell them the application asks you to mark your sex and I did. It didn't ask me for my gender."

On high school and college campuses and in certain political and social media circles, the growing visibility of a small, but semantically committed cadre of young people who, like Crownover, self-identify as "genderqueer" — neither male nor female but an androgynous hybrid or rejection of both — is challenging anew the limits of Western comprehension and the English language.

Though still in search of mainstream acceptance, students and staff members who describe themselves in terms such as agender, bigender, third gender or gender-fluid are requesting — and sometimes finding — linguistic recognition.

Inviting students to state their preferred gender pronouns, known as PGPs for short, and encouraging classmates to use unfamiliar ones such as "ze,'''sie," ''e," ''ou" and "ve" has become an accepted back-to-school practice for professors, dorm advisers, club sponsors, workshop leaders and health care providers at several schools.
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The phenomenon gained notice in the San Francisco Bay area in early November after an 18-year-old student at a private high school in Berkeley suffered severe burns when a 16-year-old boy set fire to the student's skirt while the two were riding a public bus. The parents of the injured student, Sascha Fleischman, said their son is biologically male but identifies as agender and favors they as a pronoun.

At the University of Vermont, students who elect to change their names and/or pronouns on class rosters now can choose from she, he and ze, as well as the option of being referred to by only their names. Hampshire College in Massachusetts advertises its inclusiveness by listing the gender pronouns of its tour guides on the school's web site. And intake forms at the University of California, Berkeley's student health center include spaces for male, female or other.

At Mills, the changes have included tweaking some long-standing traditions. New students are now called "first-years" instead of "freshwomen." The student government also has edited the college's historic chant — "Strong women! Proud women! All women! Mills women!" to "Strong, Proud, All, Mills!"

The nods to novel pronouns and nonconformity are an outgrowth of campaigns for gender-neutral bathrooms and housing that were aimed at making campuses more welcoming for transgender students moving from one side of the gender spectrum to the other. But as fewer young people choose to undergo sex reassignment surgery, such students are slowly being outnumbered by peers who refuse to be limited, said Genny Beemyn, director of the Stonewall Center at the University of Massachusetts, Amherst.

"Certainly we see students who are transitioning, particularly female to male, but the vast majority of students who identify under the trans umbrella identify in some way outside the binary, and that's really causing a shift on college campuses," said Beemyn, who studies gender identity in higher education and recently traded ze for they. "Having role models and examples allows people to say 'Yes, what I am feeling is legitimate.'"
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As neologisms like "ze" have moved beyond conversation and into students' academic papers, some professors have expressed annoyance and uncertainty about how to respond, said Lucy Ferriss, writer-in-residence at Trinity College in Connecticut and a frequent contributor to the Chronicle of Higher Education's language blog, Lingua Franca. .

"There is an initial discomfort. I think it's probably hypocritical to pretend there isn't, to say, 'Ok, that's what they want to do' and leave it at that," Ferriss said. "The people I know who teach will say 'This is weird and it's cumbersome and it's not going to last because it's not organic.'"

At the same time, Ferris thinks it's a mistake for scholars and grammarians to dismiss the trend without considering whether English and society might be served by less-rigid ideas about gender.
"Mail carrier did not evolve organically and it's a lot easier to say mailman. Decades ago there were poets who refused to be called poetesses," she said. "Most language has evolved organically, but there have been times — and when it comes to issues of gender there probably have to be times — when there are people willing to push the envelope."

Mel Goodwin, youth program director at the gay and lesbian community center in Las Vegas, said getting the hang of alternative pronouns can be tricky in conversation. Goodwin, 28, claimed they as a preferred pronoun four years ago and it took time "to unlearn what I had been taught about gender."

Yet when people object to they as being grammatically incorrect, Goodwin counters that modern English is to blame and that scholars, writers and linguists have spent more than a century trying to come up with gender-neutral pronouns that stick. In public presentations, Goodwin also refers to a map that shows historic and contemporary cultures around the world that have recognized more than two genders.

"This is not about young people in the U.S. over the last 20 years kind of coming out of the woodwork and making up labels that aren't real," Goodwin said. "This is a real variation among humans, period."




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Лучше горькая правда, чем сладкая ложь.

Список Бродского


Литература, обязательная к прочтению.
«Просто чтобы с вами было о чём разговаривать».

• «Бхагават гита»;
• «Махабхарата»;
• «Гильгамеш»;
• «Ветхий Завет»;
• Гомер. «Илиада», «Одиссея»;
• Геродот. «История»;
• Софокл. Пьесы;
• Эсхил. Пьесы;
• Еврипид. Пьесы: «Ипполит», «Вакханки», «Электра», «Финикиянки»:
• Фукидид. «История Пелопоннесской войны»;
• Платон. «Диалоги»;
• Аристотель. «Поэтика», «Физика», «Этика», «О душе»;
• Александрийская поэзия;
• Лукреций. «О природе вещей»;
• Плутарх. «Жизнеописания»;
• Вергилий. «Энеида», «Буколики», «Георгики»;
• Тацит. «Анналы»;
• Овидий. «Метаморфозы», «Героиды», «Наука любви»;
• Новый Завет;
• Светоний. «Жизнеописания двенадцати цезарей»;
• Марк Аврелий;
• Катулл;
• Гораций;
• Эпиктет;
• Аристофан;
• Элиан. «Пестрые истории», «О природе животных»;
• Аполлодор. «Аргонавтика»;
• Пселл. «Жизнеописание правителей Византии»;
• Гиббон. «История упадка и разрушения Римской империи»;
• Плотин. «Эннеады»;
• Евсевий. «Церковная история»;
• Боэций. «Об утешении философией»;
• Плиний Младший. «Письма»;
• Византийские стихотворные романы;
• Гераклит. «Фрагменты»;
• Августин. «Исповедь»;
• Фома Аквинский. «Summa Theolo qica»;
• Св. Франциск. «Цветочки»;
• Николло Макиавелли. «Государь»;
• Данте. «Божественная комедия»;
• Франко Сакети. Новеллы;
• Исландские саги;
• Шекспир. «Антоний и Клеопатра», «Гамлет», «Макбет», «Генрих V»;
• Рабле;
• Бэкон;
• Мартин Лютер;
• Кальвин;
• Монтень. «Опыты»;
• Сервантес. «Дон Кихот»;
• Декарт;
• «Песнь о Роланде»;
• «Беовульф»;
• Бенвенуто Челлини;
• Генри Адамс. «Воспитание Генри Адамса»;
• Гоббс. «Левиафан»;
• Паскаль. «Мысли»;
• Мильтон. «Потерянный рай»;
• Джон Донн, Эндрю Марвелл, Джордж Херберт, Ричард Крошоу;
• Спиноза. «Трактаты»;
• Стендаль. «Пармская обитель», «Красное и черное», «Жизнь Анри Брюлара»;
• Свифт. «Путешествие Гулливера»;
• Лоренс Стерн. «Тристрам Шэнди»;
• Шодерло де Лакло. «Опасные связи»;
• Монтескье. «Персидские письма»;
• Локк. «Второй трактат о правительстве»;
• Адам Смит. «Благосостояние наций»;
• Лейбниц;
• Юм;
• Тексты федералистов;
• Кант. «Критика чистого разума»;
• Кьеркегор. «Страх и трепет», «Или-или», «Философские фрагменты»;
• Достоевский. «Записки из подполья», «Бесы»;
• Гете. «Фауст», «Итальянское путешествие»;
• Токвиль. «О демократии в Америке»;
• Де Кюстин. «Путешествие наших дней (Империя царя)»;
• Эрик Ауэрбах. «Мимезис»;
• Прескотт. «Лабиринт одиночества»;
• Карл Поппер. «Логика научного открытия», «Открытое общество и его враги»;
• Элиас Канетти. «Толпа и власть».

Поэзия, рекомендованная к прочтению

• Английская/ американская: Роберт Фрост, Томас Харди, Уильям Батлер Йейтс, Томас Стернз Элиот, Уистен Хью Оден, Марианна Мур, Элизабет Бишоп.
• Немецкая: Райнер Мария Рильке, Георг Тракль, Петер Хухель, Ингеборг Бахман, Готфрид Бенн.
• Испанская: Антонио Мачадо, Федерико Гарсиа Лорка, Луис Сернуда, Рафаэль Альберти, Хуан Рамон Хименес, Октавио Пас.
• Польская: Леопольд Стафф, Чеслав Милош, Збигнев Херберт, Вислава Шимборска.
• Французская: Гийом Аполлинер, Жюль Сюпервьель, Пьер Реверди, Блез Сандрар, Макс Жакоб, Франсис Жамм, Андре Френо, Поль Элюар, Виктор Сегален, Анри Мишо.
• Греческая: Константин Кавафис, Йоргос Сеферис, Яннис Рицос.
• Голландская: Мартинус Нейхоф. «Аватар».
• Португальская: Фернандо Пессоа, Карлос Друммонд де Андрад.
• Шведская: Гуннар Экелёф, Харри Мартинсон, Вернер Аспенстром, Тумас Транстрёмер.
• Русская: Марина Цветаева, Осип Мандельштам, Анна Ахматова, Борис Пастернак, Владислав Ходасевич, Виктор Хлебников, Николай Клюев, Николай Заболоцкий.

by Horst Faas (Vietnam,1965)

(Правильнее: подлить масла, "подлить масла в огонь").

25 Things You Don’t Have To Justify To Anyone | Thought Catalog

FEB. 1, 2013 By CHELSEA FAGAN




"1. Your job. Yes, even if you’re working something that other people condescendingly term “not a real job,” such as retail or service. If you have a job of any kind in this economy, you’ve already won.


2. Whether or not you have debt. If you managed to get out of your education debt-free, that doesn’t mean that your life is a financial walk in the park that you constantly have to be apologizing for. If you are in debt, it doesn’t mean you got a “worthless” degree and now deserve to be shamed for struggling to find work after you were convinced by your school that you were making a good decision.


3. The kind of food you enjoy eating, or why you enjoy eating. (No matter how “uncultured” or “boring” or “gross” someone else might deem your favorite food.)


4. Your decision to have children, or not have them, or to not be sure if you even want them.


5. Your dislike for marriage as an institution — and even if this one day changes, you don’t have to justify having grown as a person and moved into a new point of view. No one should be telling you “I told you so” over something as enormous as your decision to commit for life to another person.


6. Your sexuality, or your desire to experiment with it. You are allowed to have “phases” or “try things out” or be “confused,” and can take as much time as you want figuring it out.


7. Your gender presentation.


8. Your income level, and what you can and cannot afford. If you are having trouble keeping up with friends because you are not able to spend as much as them, there is no reason to risk financial ruin to try and keep up appearances.


9. Your body. The only person whom you need to talk to about with it is your doctor; everyone else can else can go kick rocks.


10. Whether or not you want to go out on a weekend night, or ten weekend nights in a row. The amount of time you spend in a bar or at a club does not directly correlate with how cool or worthy a person you are.


11. Your relationship status. If you’re single and happy, that’s great. If you’re in a relationship and happy, that’s great. If you’re either of those and not happy, you are more than allowed to be, and it’s no one’s business how you should “fix” it unless you ask them for their advice.


12. How many friends you have. One is enough. A hundred is enough. And there is no need to falsely upgrade acquaintances to “friend” status in your mind simply to fill out the ranks. A true friend is rare, and we don’t need to make it a competition for who has the most.


13. How much you drink when you go out, or if you drink at all, or why you choose not to drink if you do.


14. What kind of music you enjoy listening to.


15. What kind of an education you have or don’t have, or if you intend to go back and finish what you’ve started. If continuing your studies is something you want to do, good, but don’t be forced into saying that you want it just because it’s what people expect of you.


16. What you happen to be turned on by. If you like slash fiction, you like slash fiction. If you like people recording videos of themselves popping balloons, that’s awesome for you. It’s all good, and as long as you’re not hurting anyone, have at it.


17. Whether or not you know to cook, even if you’re a woman who “should” know how to do those things.


18. If you stay at home to raise your children, or if you hire someone to help you do so because you have a full-time career. Neither of those choices are more or less feminist, no matter what Elizabeth Wurtzel tells you.


19. How many people you have had sex with.


20. Whether or not you are a virgin, and whether or not you want to wait for marriage to lose said virginity.


21. Whether or not you believe in God, and what you think God actually is. (As long as you’re not imposing any of your beliefs on others, in which case we’d have a bit of a problem. But I trust that you’re cool and wouldn’t do that.)


22. Who you voted for and why. If you want to talk about it, you’re free to. But no one should ever make you feel like you have to tell them.


23. If you have sex on a first date, if you kiss on a first date, or if you won’t even hold hands on a first date. You’re allowed to do whatever you like when you’ve just met a new potential suitor.


24. Whether or not you choose to use dating websites.


25. Not knowing exactly what you want to be when you grow up, even if many people would already put you in the category of “grown up.” If you are considering going back to school, or changing careers, or moving, or starting a family, or doing charity work — it’s all good. And none of it has to be followed up with a longwinded explanation about why it’s a good idea and they should believe in you. If you need to justify what makes you happy to someone in your life, perhaps you should ask yourself why you even care about their opinion in the first place."

Gnosis - The Stoned Ages | Documentary

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Speaking More Than One Language Could Prevent Alzheimer's : Shots - Health News : NPR

by NANCY SHUTE


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How Language Seems To Shape One's View Of The World : Shots - Health News : NPR


by ALAN YU


January 02, 2014 2:32 PM