Thread: Question about Russian Women

I was reading some demographics about Russian women and I came across one that has been on my mind for a while now.

64% are younger than 30 years of age. Be very attentive with Russian women who are over thirty, and have never been married. These women have pragmatic minds. They have learned many lessons in life, and they may not be as simple as they might appear in the beginning.

I know what this says at face value but I'm wondering if someone could clarify these 'lessons in life'?

C'mon man. They may be pragmatic but they're still only women

Where is origin? I just wonder. Is it secret service man's instruction?

Originally Posted by MagellanTX

I know what this says at face value but I'm wondering if someone could clarify these 'lessons in life'?

Life lessons are life lessons. The things you learn from life. I think you need to be more specific with your question.

I agree with Rooster, that the "lessons" life teaches women in Russia are pretty much the same lessons life teaches any woman.

Be very attentive with Russian women who are over thirty, and have never been married. These women have pragmatic minds. They have learned many lessons in life, and they may not be as simple as they might appear in the beginning...


Be very attentive with ALL women from all countries whatever age

Sounds like he had a bad experience with some Russian woman and now he generalizes them all this way hehe.

Originally Posted by Matroskin Kot

the same lessons life teaches any...

anyone

Here is the link were I got the information.

http://www.rwguide.com/

The author makes it sound like there are problems with the women where are over 30 and have never been married. While, I've never been to Russia I have been to other countries where the women are raised differently. This is not saying that there's anything wrong with them but sometimes requires a bit of adjustment to get use to their culture or views.

I wish to learn more about the Russian culture which is what prompted the question. To be more specific for this instance - What is different in the way women are brought up today versus the way they were brought up for the generation who are now over 30. Were they taught that Russian men were evil or during some period of their life they had a bad experience with men?

No, it's just that in Russia, if a woman isn't married by 30, people start thinking something is wrong with them. That's all, it's an ancient Russian tradition.

Originally Posted by kalinka_vinnie

No, it's just that in Russia, if a woman isn't married by 30, people start thinking something is wrong with them. That's all, it's an ancient Russian tradition.

30? I don't know, in Ukraine that number was more like 24 or 25. Basically, a year or two after finishing university. Then, those who never go to university are starting to worry by 21 and getting "desperate" by 23.

Most of the single women I knew who were 30 were divorced and had a couple of kids by then.

The biggest factor in that, as far as I can tell, is that many (most?) people there are convinced that the "perfect" age to have children (for a woman) is about 21, and that childbirth gets riskier and riskier after that. It's just something I heard from a lot of different people.

russians tend to get married a lot earlier than in the west and its not uncommon for a 26 year old woman to think shes getting too old and want to get married (my girlfriends sister for one).

Originally Posted by MagellanTX

I was reading some demographics about Russian women

Hmmmm......!!

My girlfriend, now fiance, is 28 but I'm not sure she saw herself as being left on the shelf?
The cultural differences have made our relationship even better in my opinion but I think so long as there is communication relationships with women from any country are basically the same?
I am interested to know why so many Russian women seem to prefer men from the west though?

Mark

Originally Posted by MrMarkyMark

My girlfriend, now fiance, is 28 but I'm not sure she saw herself as being left on the shelf?
The cultural differences have made our relationship even better in my opinion but I think so long as there is communication relationships with women from any country are basically the same?
I am interested to know why so many Russian women seem to prefer men from the west though?

Mark

It's because a neighbor's cow is always better than yours, the boys from another village are more attractive than the local guys, the life is always better abroad, etc. Just a stereotype, nothing more.

Actually, Ramil, you are wrong, we are better than you!

Seriously, not all Russian women prefer Western men, but since there are a lot more women in Russia than men (whose life expectancy, might I add, has dropped significantly), they naturally need to find their soul-mates elsewhere!

Originally Posted by kalinka_vinnie

Actually, Ramil, you are wrong, we are better than you!

In your dreams

I'm not so sure about the whole "Russian girls love to date Western guys" thing. Most of the Russian girls I know here who are dating are actually dating Russian guys. In a sense, I think it's good because they will hopefully contribute to fixing the demographic crisis of ethnic Russians in the long run.

An acquaintance of mine is getting ready to marry a girl from China. He met her on a popular matching web site and unfortunately his endeavors have inspired two others to follow suit. The last time I talked to him he was mentioning how desperate these girls (I’m assuming his taste in girls) wanted to come to the United States and how they longed for a western man. He also mentioned that there were a lot of Russian girls on the site looking for the same thing. This, by the way, is what prompted me to lookup the information on the Russian demographics of women.

I was relieved to find that his “intelligence” on the disparity of Russian women was completely inaccurate and sorely misplaced. My interests in Russia do not revolve around love or lust but it is conceivable that, given the right circumstances, I may run across someone with whom, given time, I may want to settle down with.

I never considered this part of my life (I work way too much) until I came across the statistic that was the inspiration for this original post. Since I am 31 I became concerned that there could be a something wrong or a secret with the generation of Russian women who are in my age group.

In reading your replies I understand those fears are probably realized by some statistical author who might not have had enough time to understand or relate to the Russian people.

One thing did catch my attention though…

It's because a neighbor's cow is always better than yours, the boys from another village are more attractive than the local guys, the life is always better abroad, etc. Just a stereotype, nothing more.

The stereotype is alive and well and I have seen it in the messages back and forth between the people I know and their “this year’s model”. I understand that there is a flip side to every coin and there are probably Russian woman who are looking for the western man, maybe perhaps to leave Russia. However, I'm sure now that for the majority this is not the case.

My question is now, If a Russian woman was looking for a western man, would she be more attracted to someone who is living in the United States or someone who is living in her own country.

This also relates to:

I think it's good because they will hopefully contribute to fixing the demographic crisis of ethnic Russians in the long run.

Even though a western man living in Russia does not balance the ethnic Russian equation - is it more acceptable, in the Russian culture, for a Russian woman to be married to a western man who lives in Russia, or for her to pack up and head to the United States?

I suspect I know the answers but I have been surprised while reading some of the posts on this web site (at least the ones I can understand) and enjoy hearing the opinions of all of its members.

Thanks!!

Originally Posted by MagellanTX

My question is now, If a Russian woman was looking for a western man, would she be more attracted to someone who is living in the United States or someone who is living in her own country.

I believe that at least 90% of girls who actively look for the western men/husbands do it not because of their personalities or superiority over Russian men, but because they hope to live (presumably) more safer, wealthier life abroad, maybe to see the world, to travel, etc.
From this point of view a western man living in Russia isn't their first choice.

On the other hand if the man in question is going to return to his native country in the foreseeable future, his living in Russia is a plus (he's familiar with Russian culture and language and probably is aware of some cultural differences).
All of the said above is my specualtion, of course. I'm not an expert.

is it more acceptable, in the Russian culture, for a Russian woman to be married to a western man who lives in Russia, or for her to pack up and head to the United States?

It doesn't matter.

Sorry - I never meant to reinforce any stereotypes - Anyway, we are all the same - unique!

Mark

How can we be sure of those statitcs/percentages?There are lots of tests like that.That's just not reflecting the truth and it doesn't rely on any fact.Shortly it's all crap