Originally Posted by
rockzmom What is the "fair' and "equal" way to hold a farewell?
Is there really a solution to this type of situation?
Well, what I described above, i.e.
At ours, when an actor or a singer who was well-known and beloved by people dies, a гражданская панихида (civil funeral rites) takes place in the theatre where he worked or some another... concert hall, or something. EVERYONE can come and get into the theatre, and ONLY if there are no more free seats or places where people could stand, the theatre management can close the admission seems quite a 'fair' way to me.
Also, it could be a farewell in a big church or concert hall where people could go through 'in an endless stream' (I can't word it in good English, but I hope it's understandable). To go past the coffin (more or less near to it) and to say 'good bye' to oneself would be enough, in my opinion. Making a SHOW out of it is not necessary. No lottery (it looks just CYNICAL). Just those who came in time. If someone didn't - well, one should respect death and not make a brawl like "Hey, why that guy managed to get there, and I didn't??"
I've been once to a ceremony like that. Everyone 'behaved well'. Those who remained outside just awaited when the coffin would be carried out (to the car), and then threw flowers on and under the coffin and gave their last applause to the actor.
And you know, there are so many tears inside that I can't imagine how even the
idea about money could be mentioned...