Quote Originally Posted by traveler
the thing is americans have slang its sort of like a dialect. but the thing i dont get is why european and asian languages care so much about formalities and who uses them. i mean for "how are you doing" u have informal male, informal female, formal male, formal female. what is up with that? why dooes it matter that much?
I believe that at one time English also had a formal form, which gradually went of use. However, what you're talking about goes beyong pronouns. Although you may use "you" with both of them, I'm sure you speak to adults you don't know differently than to your close friends.

If you are speaking to a female or male and informally ask them how are they doing, the question is the same. But if you are talking to a female you know well, you don't use the formal endings.
Eh? I don't think I've quite deciphered your message, Evgenia. If you are talking to a male you know well, you don't use the formal endings either.