We're dealing with two different definitions here. You advocate your own one while I'm pointing out that this is not the kind of definition 'democtatic leaders' use. You can explain all kind of contraversities with clever words and smart definitions, but again - your explanation does not fit the idea of democracy the most of people have in their heads.
Well, from the humanitarian point of view I would agree, that beating children without explaining a few things before that is bad, but in the long run, I don't think there will be any difference when that child grows up. Yes, those two hypothetical kids would have different characters and will act differently, but the 'beaten one' would probably have better sense. Having said so, I must admit that this is a pure speculation and if we assume that in this example by saying 'parent' we mean 'government' and by 'child' we mean 'the subjects' then the allusion is wrong. A parent gives life to its offspring and he provides for his offspring therefore he can be at least partially justified while in the government/subjects pair the situaion is the opposite. It's the subjects who feed their government and it's the subjects who 'gave birth' to the government.
So, if we have a dictator who ascended the power by violence and mistreats his population will be overthrown sooner or later and there will be a new system of state power, but in a 'democratic country' it doesn't matter who currently the president is because the system won't change. A new president will continue to maintain the current system and lie on TV about 'equal rights and possibilities'.
Well, now, that's why I'm against any forms of government.
I have. Twice, but I'm not in a position to judge basing on my own experience. Simply because of I had not witnessed any committed crimes this doesn't mean that the Americans are all that law-abiding. If that were so, US wouldn't have had the largest prison population in the world and a crime statistics worse than it is in some less democratic countries.