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    What is the correct and propper way of asking you future wife's mum and dad for their consent (permission) to get married to their daughter - The exact question or words in russian that would be appropriate? (a paragraph would do as well)

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    Would the letter happen to open like this, by any chance?

    Я очень сожалею, но кажется, что я оплодотворил вашу дочь.....
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    Re: permission to get married

    Quote Originally Posted by barryvanrensburg
    What is the correct and propper way of asking you future wife's mum and dad for their consent (permission) to get married to their daughter - The exact question or words in russian that would be appropriate? (a paragraph would do as well)
    "Я прошу у Вас руки Вашей дочери."
    In Russian, all nationalities and their corresponding languages start with a lower-case letter.

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    you could probly just join the 21st century and not look like a suckup and just not ask them, because unless shes 16, shes a con(cs?)enting adult.
    Вот это да, я так люблю себя. И сегодня я люблю себя, ещё больше чем вчера, а завтра я буду любить себя to ещё больше чем сегодня. Тем что происходит,я вполне доволен!

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    Что вы думаете, если мы поженимся?
    What are you thinking on issue of our marriage?

    It's more neutral, and set the ball on your side at begin, as Dogboy says it's your decision, not they, and give them chance to express judgments how it could be done.

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    Re: permission to get married

    Quote Originally Posted by Оля
    "Я прошу у Вас руки Вашей дочери."
    I like Olya's approach the best... romantic, and honors and respects her parents... trust me... if her mother and father like you, endear you, the marriage will be much 'smoother', especially if and when children come.

    I started to agree with Dogboy's and Svar's approaches... but 21st Century, forget it... emotions, family loyalty, honoring and respecting parents, and bonding with your future in-laws... these are timeless, and invested platinum for the future, especially through the difficult moments.

    Honor her parents, and ask permission for her hand in marriage... signs of your humbleness, nobility, and respect for them. And no worries... it shows no weakness... it shows signs of your control over your strength and pride... other endearing qualities.

    My 2 kopeks worth.

    Good fortune to you both.

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    Re: permission to get married

    Quote Originally Posted by Dobry
    Honor her parents, and ask permission for her hand in marriage... signs of your humbleness, nobility, and respect for them.
    That depends on what kind of people parents are. I'd still aree with Dobry. Play safe and ask. It worths nothing but it may save you much nerve later.

    Я прошу руки вашей дочери.
    Прошу вашего согласия на наш брак.

    The fact that you both do love each other also worths mentioning:

    Мы с вашей дочерью любим друг-друга or
    Я очень сильно люблю вашу дочь

    Parents are very fond of things like that. They may become your closest allies in relation with their daughter or your worst enemies.
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    Re: permission to get married

    Quote Originally Posted by Dobry
    Quote Originally Posted by Оля
    "Я прошу у Вас руки Вашей дочери."
    I like Olya's approach the best... romantic, and honors and respects her parents... trust me... if her mother and father like you, endear you, the marriage will be much 'smoother', especially if and when children come.

    I started to agree with Dogboy's and Svar's approaches... but 21st Century, forget it... emotions, family loyalty, honoring and respecting parents, and bonding with your future in-laws... these are timeless, and invested platinum for the future, especially through the difficult moments.

    Honor her parents, and ask permission for her hand in marriage... signs of your humbleness, nobility, and respect for them. And no worries... it shows no weakness... it shows signs of your control over your strength and pride... other endearing qualities.

    My 2 kopeks worth.

    Good fortune to you both.
    Wise words, Dobry.

    And, speaking as a female, women often like a bit of slightly oldfashioned romanticism.....

    Good luck, Barry
    Ой, голова у меня кружится |-P ...... and my brain hurts too....

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    Re: permission to get married

    Мы с вашей дочкой решили пожениться.

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    Ваша дочь решила выйти за меня замуж.
    Я решил взять вашу дочь в жёны.

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    May I ask you, how old must be fashion?
    Some Caucasus (Georgians, Chechens etc) ppl and Kubansky Cazacky too, steal they wives even in 19-20th centuries from parent house and don’t let them see each other until first child is born. Because, father always say NO to poor young warrior, he wants rich old man and big “kalym”, a bride-price.
    As I know, in Arab World it's still common practice.

    But Russian tradition has "parent blessing" and "dower", so it's more mercantile than romatic. No "parent blessing" - no "dower"! But always you can steal she undowered.

    it shows no weakness... it shows signs of your control over your strength and pride... other endearing qualities.
    Someone whatching or reading too much times "Pride and Prejudice"

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    - Между прочим, в соседнем районе жених украл члена партии.

    http://www.andrs.nm.ru/files/ukral.mp3

    Кинофильм "Кавказкая пленница"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dogboy182
    you could probly just join the 21st century and not look like a suckup and just not ask them, because unless shes 16, shes a con(cs?)enting adult.
    What if the girl wants him to do it?

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    Re: permission to get married

    Quote Originally Posted by Dobry
    Quote Originally Posted by Оля
    "Я прошу у Вас руки Вашей дочери."
    I like Olya's approach the best... romantic, and honors and respects her parents... trust me... if her mother and father like you, endear you, the marriage will be much 'smoother', especially if and when children come.

    I started to agree with Dogboy's and Svar's approaches... but 21st Century, forget it... emotions, family loyalty, honoring and respecting parents, and bonding with your future in-laws... these are timeless, and invested platinum for the future, especially through the difficult moments.

    Honor her parents, and ask permission for her hand in marriage... signs of your humbleness, nobility, and respect for them. And no worries... it shows no weakness... it shows signs of your control over your strength and pride... other endearing qualities.

    My 2 kopeks worth.

    Good fortune to you both.
    Well... On the one hand you're right. On the other... What if they say "No"? Is he still gonna marry her? I would. But I would never forgive them. No chance to build relationship.

    If he is sure that they'll say "Yes" it becomes a ritual. Nothing against rituals, though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by svar45

    it shows no weakness... it shows signs of your control over your strength and pride... other endearing qualities.
    Someone whatching or reading too much times "Pride and Prejudice"
    No... I'm someone who is reading too many of the сказки.

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    Quote Originally Posted by svar45
    May I ask you, how old must be old-fashioned?
    Some Caucasus (Georgians, Chechens etc) ppl and Kubansky Cazacky too, steal their wives even in 19-20th centuries from their parents' house and don’t let them see each other until the first child is born. Because the father always says NO to the poor young warrior, he wants a rich old man and a big “kalym”, a bride-price.
    As I know, in the Arab World it's still common practice.

    But Russian tradition has "parental blessing" and "dowery", so it's more mercantile than romatic. No "parent blessing" - no "dowery"! But you can always steal her undowered.

    it shows no weakness... it shows signs of your control over your strength and pride... other endearing qualities.
    Someone is watching or reading too much times "Pride and Prejudice"

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    Thanks! I'm shamed and ruined! Now you must marry on me, dude!

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    фдсфдсфдс

    Не надо смущаться о своих ошибках. На самом деле, твой английский очень хорош, и к тому же, ты не стесняешься использовать его!

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    Re: фдсфдсфдс

    Quote Originally Posted by basurero
    Не надо смущаться в своих ошибках. На самом деле, твой английский очень хорош, и к тому же, ты не стесняешься eго использовать!
    На самом деле, я просто не могу заставить себя писать все эти артикли, их так много набирать надо и думать куда какой ставить.
    А если не писать, то типа и не ошибся. Самообман.

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    Re: фдсфдсфдс

    Quote Originally Posted by svar45
    Quote Originally Posted by basurero
    Не надо смущаться в своих ошибках.
    По-моему, так хуже.
    In Russian, all nationalities and their corresponding languages start with a lower-case letter.

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    Re: фдсфдсфдс

    Quote Originally Posted by basurero
    Не надо смущаться насчет своих ошибок. На самом деле_ твой английский очень хорош, и к тому же_ ты не стесняешься использовать его!
    In Russian, all nationalities and their corresponding languages start with a lower-case letter.

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